To Cry Or Not To Cry
Is there something wrong when I didn't cry at a close family member funeral?
There are several things all colliding at one time during that moment
and how you respond is as unique as a fingerprint.
People expect to cry and be sad at such events, but sometimes nature
takes another path. When you venture into extreme grief it is uncharted
individual territory. The way it strikes you at that moment depends on
your mental and emotional acuity and state.
The response is not always what you or others expected. The response
may range from a numb emotionless almost uncaring attitude to extreme
despair and hysteria. It all depends on the circumstances and timing.
Sometimes grief is so severe that it short-circuits human emotion
and turns you off. After time passes the grief may subside enough
to allow you to suddenly experience the normal emotional
sensations that were repressed.
No one can define how or when we react to life's events. If someone has a problem with your reaction, it is their fault.
Like the book title "What you think of me is none of my business".
As long as your reaction was real, it is what you needed to show.
If you do have sorrow, it will come up in time. But, you might want to talk to a close friend (someone that can just listen as you talk) about your feelings about this person and/or situation.
Life is as good as I allow it to be.
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